I need Advice on How to Handle a Situation?

Last night my roommate had a friend over. I was awake before his “friend” came over. Yet when he came over, my roommie didn’t say a thing to me. He let him sleep with him. I have nothing against it. Each to his own. But then the “noises” started. Lucky I had sense to grab my mp3 player before I got into bed. But I could still hear. What was going on. Now I was in a VERY awkward situation. I didn’t know whether I should get up and live and go sleep on the couch or should I stay in bed pretend sleeping, so not to embarrass him. I chose the latter. So I was kept up much of the night, mostly likely only getting around 1 to 2 of sleep, of uninterrupted sleep.


This isn’t the 1st time it’s happened; I’ve talked to him before, about when his “friend” came over. He apologized and said he was real sorry, but it happened again. Now should I confront him again and say “next time you want to have your “friend” over, let me know, I can go and sleep on the couch, once in a while” “But just let me know”.





What Should I do?I need Advice on How to Handle a Situation?
I think it's great you're being so considerate about it. But it is definitely unacceptable to be doing that. You have your own rights to some sense of privacy in your room. I suggest you, politely reminding him again about the situation, sound more urgent this time about it, and explain your feeling on the matter, that you feel it is awkward. Suggest to your friend that maybe he does it somewhere else. It is after all, your room and you have every right to sleep in there. If he refuses, then report to the appropriate personells, eg warden, the guard in your hostel, citing invasion of privacy, inappriopriate behaviour, etc. I understand the situation you're going through, I live in a 3 seater room which not much space to divide amongst ourselves (I live in a student hostel in Russia...) so at times I might feel as depressed, if not more, than you. Just do your best to handle the situation. Wish you luck!!!I need Advice on How to Handle a Situation?
get out of there
He should respect your privacy, I would get up stomp my feet around, cough loudly and slam some doors if that was me,or tell him ';hey man you should move a little more to right, your friend seems to like it when you do that.';
Have sex with someone twice as loud.
I would talk to him again and tell him that if he wants to have this kind of relationship with his friend then to either do it at the friends house or the two of them can go on the couch....why should you have to be inconvenienced? I think it is kinda gross that he wouldnt care that you were in the room to begin with...he sounds a little wierd if you ask me.
you should tell him that he is bothering you.he shold cooprate with you oterwise you can aslo bother him.


while living with others we have to compromise at some things
Just propose them a threesome so you don't get bored...and if they accept after all you will sleep like a baby...
sit him down and tell him what you are thinking


let him know that it is rude,and that they need to be quiet


if they can't,then he needs to go over his ';friend'; house,or get a room
1st of all you don't specify wheather you have separate rooms, but besides that, if you pay equal share of rent I would strongly


suggest that you since you have mentioned this before that this is not right and it needs to be resolved. Have him take his friend to his friends place. Or else, find another room mate!
This is a classic case which most people living with a roommate will at some point experience, maybe not quit in the same way, but the idea is the same. This is a situation that you both need to discuss. If you brought it up once and it happened again, then you two obviously didn't make any kind of arrangements to solve the situation from happening again. You need to talk to your roommate again, but make sure its a proactive conversation, where you two can come to a compromise that will solve the situation. Living with someone else is hard becuase you have to make compromises and arrangements of these sorts, but have faith in your friendship with your roomie and just talk it out and find a reasonable solution.
Its kool to respect to each its own rule but on the same i liek the do unto others as u wish to be done unto which means if he can't respect you enough to at least warn you or give you other options so u can get to sleep then maybe he needs a stern talkign to and let him know hey its not kool to keep doing something you say ur not gonna do and tell him look just to be fair im willing to sleep on the couch just let me know in advance u r going to have company Good Luck and i appreciate how u r so empathetic when it comes to others needs
Maybe you should move out and his friend should move in...
eww... I would talk to him about it and tell him you need your rest, and if he is going to have ';friends'; over just to give you a little warning so you can make sleeping arrangements. Good luck.
Just go to the couch! Staying there is kind of warped!

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