Can anyone give me advice on how to handle the situation of my boyfriends ex girlfriend being pregnant to him?

It happened before we met and both he and I not long ago found out. I have chosen to stay with him as we have something special and I know he doesnt love her or want to be with her but will have access to his child and pay maintenance. She is due early next year. We are not kids, he in his forties and me in my thirties. I am petrified and am looking for advice on this matter and how i should handle the situation when I have lots of worries and insecurites.Can anyone give me advice on how to handle the situation of my boyfriends ex girlfriend being pregnant to him?
He's now going to be connected to her for at least 18 years to life because of this child. Either you learn to deal with this reality or get out. Put yourself in the child's shoes and consider what you'd want ';this other woman'; to do. If you look at it that way, I'm hoping that you'll do the mature and right thing for this innocent child. If you can't handle that, please get out of this relationship AT ONCE!!!Can anyone give me advice on how to handle the situation of my boyfriends ex girlfriend being pregnant to him?
id say everthing is gonna be okay...i know its scary, but if you love him and he loves you then youll make it work. obviously hes gonnna have a past, so just be supportive and everything will be good
all you can do is support his wishes... the best thing i could suggest is to stay out of it... or at least try to... this is a sticky mess... but it looks like he is trying to do the right thing... ask yourself would it be any different if the said child was already born... he still would be doing the right thing by taking care of his business right... so think of it that way... if he truly loves you and you love him this will pass... not easily but will pass and be selfish for a minute you get to be around a baby part time and spoil it and send it home... he-he... always try to look at the positive...





its not the child's fault... remember that...
Always look at a person's track record.





Did he really not know that his ex was pregnant?





If so, I strongly suggest that he gets a DNA test done on the child.





Always listen to your gut feelings. If you are worried and insecured about the relationship, then listen to your gut feelings.





Is this your boyfriend's first child? Then he just might want to be in that mother's life to be with his child.





Trust your instincts. Ninety-nine point nine percent of the time, they are usually right.





You are probably feeling so insecure about the situation because you know deep inside your gut that what he says about not loving her is not true.





Don't settle.





If you keep having these insecurities, then you and he should perhaps take a break from each other until after the DNA test is taken and it is confirmed one way or the other whether or not the child is his.





If you are insecure now, how are you going to deal with a minimum of 18 years of this woman being a part of your life?





You must ask yourself, ';Do I really want this in my life at this time?';





And let's not forget about the baby-mama drama that may happen.





So do some soul searching about whether or not you're ready for this situation now and all the years to come.
Well you should exspect that if he is going to be in this child's life that so will she! So you will have to be very mature so that this child has a fair chance at a life with his/her father, Take it day by day and be open minded because this can work but it depends on how the mother of the child, your lover, and yourself view life !
I don't think you have much to worry about, that if if you fear he'd go to her or she'd have a hold on her because of the child. She made a decision to have the baby and it looks like she hadn't told him about that decision. It's basically his problem, all u can do is be supportive and if you two are still together when they child grows up, to love him/her unconditionally as if s/he was your own

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