Heard answers about this subject but need some advice? Pacifiers how to break?

Ok I have twins that are 4 years old and they have had pacifiers since birth BEFORE the age of 2 we took them away during the day and the only time they get them for the past 2 years is BEDTIME!!!! My son is not a problem it is my daughter she hates all change and this has been the worst yet! She cries and screams until for 3 and 4 hours she has until 3 am and I finally give in! It is horriable to watch and I feel like I am traumatizing her. I have tried taking away toys offering to let her pick something new out anything if she goes with out it for a night or two! Nothing is working I could use some advice PLEASE!!!Heard answers about this subject but need some advice? Pacifiers how to break?
Ok, I want to preface this by saying I did this as a last resort when we took away our daughter's pacifier. We talked about it ahead of time, cut back the use of the pacifier to only bed time, gave her a special stuffed animal to sleep with you name it we tried it. We finally decided that she needed to fall asleep a couple of times without the pacifier and then she would get over it, soooo, we gave her Benadryl about half an hour before bed time. I said I would never be one of those parents that would do something like that, but 2 nights of her falling asleep, albeit somewhat drug induced, made her realize she could do it and didn't ask for the pacifier again. Bring on the judgment, hahaha!








EDIT: My apologies to everyone else, the person I'm addressing in this part has not enabled their email for private response. Jenkur, how many people are you going to offend in your answer? How dare you call my decision to do what was right for MY family ';twisted'; or ';lazy';?! You don't know me and you have no idea what my family went through to break our child of this habit! And by the way we are talking about 1 teaspoon of an over the counter antihistamine not Valium or crack cocaine! Also telling the person that asked the question that their parenting tactic is ';idiotic'; is just wrong. This parent is asking for advice on what to do, I was relaying what worked for me in hopes that it would help someone else. If this parent doesn't want to take my advice, fine, they are under no obligation. But for you to speak up in such a demeaning, rude, and self righteous manner is completely uncalled for. If you don't have a actual answer to the question, do not impose your negativity on everyone else. This will be the end of my correspondence with you. Again, my apologies to everyone else.Heard answers about this subject but need some advice? Pacifiers how to break?
Do her a favor and take it away. I've heard of parents telling their kids about a ';pacifier fairy.'; You leave the pacifier on the windowsill then the fairy comes for it and leaves a treat in the morning. It's all about her saying goodbye to the ';babyish'; habit.
You need to explain to them during the day that only babies use pacifiers, and that since they are not babies any more they don't need them. Then simply throw them away. Put them somewhere where you cannot get them back, such as the garbage on trash day. Make sure you have none left in the house.





If your child screams for hours you are not traumatizing them at all. They are only doing it because up to this point your daughter knows if she cries for long enough you will give in and give her what she wants. Break the cycle now or the only lesson you are teaching them is that long crying tantrums result in them getting their own way.
Explain that big kids don't use pacifiers and that her brother is ahead of her in becomming a big kid.





Give it to her later each night. First night, give it to her when she goes to bed. Second night, put her to bed and give her the pacifier 5 minutes later. Third night, 10 min., etc. After a while, she will fall asleep waiting for it.





';I have tried taking away toys offering to let her pick something new out anything if she goes with out it for a night or two!';





Instead of punishing and bribing, think of it as training, the way you would train a pet. Animals can be trained to do almost anything. People are easier to train and kids want nothing more than to please their parents; their lives depend upon it.
you have to take them completely away, stick your grounds there is no other way, you just say they are gone.they will scream and have a horrible fit but you have to deal with it
You are not helping her by giving in. The longer you let this go on the harder it will be to break the cycle. Let her cry. She is not in physical pain.
I had the same thing with my 4 yo but it was the bottle you need to be strong say no and let her cry.If my son asks for a bottle I say no and he just accepts it.If he has been good I read two stories at bed time Good Luck
Nanny jo from super nanny had mom tell her child about the pacifier faries who collect pacifiers for babies who need them, then told the girl if she hung her paci's from the tree the fary would come for them and leave a special gift.


the next day the girl found a doll in the tree for her.
Just take it away. I had to do this with my daughter. She cried and cried, but eventually she didn't need it any longer. It didn't take that long to break. You need to hurry though because the older they get,the harder it will be to break.
I had this exact same problem with my son. The hardest thing -but I did it- was to remove it totally from the house. Out of sight out of mind and replaced it with a big boy...in your case a big girl... sippy cup, that he could take to bed with him.


I explained earlier in the day what it was and how that's what he would be aloud at night- I gave it to him early so he could see it and take time getting used to the idea- because he was a big boy!! We clapped our hands and made it a big deal and ';rewarded'; him with the cup for getting ';older.


He fussed a bit the first night, but when he realized mommy wasn't giving in and he had a drink there to replace the pacifier it worked like a charm.The positive reinforcement helped as well, because he could be proud of getting older with new privileges.
My friend told her daughter that the Pappy Fairy came and took away all her pappys now that she is a big girl. She asked for it for a few days, but they would just repeat that the Pappy Fairy came and took them because she is a big girl, and by the end of the week she forgot about it.
OK here it is nice and simple you get it down to one and one only. Then what you do is take some sissors and little by little chop away at the pacifier and eventually she should reject it on her own. Good luck.
I have read some of these answers. NEVER drug your child needlessly and yes... getting rid of a pacifier is not a good reason to drug your child. That is twisted and lazy parenting.





Also, don't tell your daughter that your son is going to be a big kid first. You should never compare siblings as to who might be the ';winner'; or ';better'; child. This is just idiotic to do.





I have heard of people cutting back the rubber part little by little and heard that it works great also. I would stick with those ideas.
Take all of your pacifiers and cut a small piece off the top of the rubber part of each. Act as if nothing is different when you give them to them. If they continue to ask for it, cut another piece off of it each day until they are down to the bottom.


Works like a charm.
My husband said his friend tied the pacifier to the leg of a table on a hardwood floor with a short string. If his child wanted to suck on the pacifier bad enough, she would have to lay on the hard floor (no pillow or blanket). She was stubborn enough to do it for almost a week but then gave up.


With my son, we told him that he had to trade it for his cake on his 2nd birthday. He totally remembers it - he sees kids with pacifiers and tells them they can get cake if they throw it out!