Need advice on how to potty train my 3 yr old daughter been trying for a year more details below....?

like i said i v'e been trying to potty train her for a year we've done the big girl pantys buying the toy and candy thing. i'm at my wits end.she'll tell me when she goes in her pull up but i can't get her over to the potty. we've treid the training chairs and the seats that go onto the big toielt. any suggestions would be greatNeed advice on how to potty train my 3 yr old daughter been trying for a year more details below....?
I hate pull-ups because they're just like diapers, but tear off. Kids are used to peeing in diapers, so they treat pull-ups the same way. Let her pick out panties...something she really likes. Once she has an accident in those and feels really wet, they get the idea of using the potty alot quicker.





I also taped a chart to the wall. Every time my child used the potty successfully, she got a star. Every 10 stars, she got a reward. Something small at first, and then the prizes would get a little bigger. By the time the week was up, she was potty trained, and I'd spent about 15 bucks on little gifts..well worth it.Need advice on how to potty train my 3 yr old daughter been trying for a year more details below....?
ok, she obviously knows when she goes. That is a step in the right direction.


What worked for me was putting my kids (boy and girl) in panties/undies and leaving them in those. The only time I would put a pull up on them was nap time and bed time. When they went in their panties I would leave them in them for a little bit...maybe 5 minutes or so, just so they would get really uncomfortable. Then I would change them into a pair of clean panties. This should work if you stick with it. I know it can be trying and it does take a lot of patience. Just put her on the little potties or the seats that go on the big potties since you already have them.


Another little tip, does she have any older siblings or cousins or anyone that is close in age that she looks up to? If so see if they can come over pretty often to have her watch. Explain to your daughter that So and So is a big girl/boy and goes to the bathroom in the potty, don't you want to be a big girl like that? This is another aspect that helped with us.


Good Luck.
I've got a 2 year old going on 3 who knows how but usually won't. I'm at a loss too.
I think that you should use the sit on the toilet and continue to let her watch you go as well. I know I use the Dora seat and she loves the idea she can go . She isn't 2 yet. I wanted to start as early as possible becasue I don't want any problems. It's true put on panties and they will get tired of feeling pissy. good Luck. It will happen don't worry.
With my son I left him in regular underwear during the daytime hours. I only put him in pull up at night. He did not like it at all when he went to the bathroom in his underwear and it went all down his legs. It took about a week of underwear when he finally began going in the toilet. He was about 2 1/2 when I started with pull ups and a month before he turned 3 I started the underwear. It was a tip from my mom, what she did with me. It worked for my son and when my youngest is that age I will try it again with him. Hope that helps give an idea to you...I know it can cause a few messes but if it works it will work fast. Good luck :)
I've had to potty train a boy and girl, my girl was potty trained at a year a half....my son? Ya...3 lol..





Lose the pull up! They feel exactly like a diaper on a baby's butt! We went out to the store and let her pick out her ';big girl panties'; and i told her as soon as she pees on the toilet (I never used a potty because there was yet another obstacle, potty to toilet, no thanks!) I put my daughter in a dress and let her go commando all day, she only had a couple of accidents. I would put a pull up on at night only and when she was waking up dry she wanted to wear her underwear...never had an accident since.





Don't get frustrated all kids are different, use some kind of incentive too...stickers etc...that always works :)





Good luck!
stop using pull ups except for when out nap time and bed time





put her in panties and take her once an hour every hour every day





i found keeping a potty journal helped too. i would write down what my son was like when waking up wet or dry and then every time he pottied or i changed wet clothes i wrote it down with the time of the day. at the end of the night i counted up and logged how many accidents. once i saw a pattern i started taking him at times i knew he would wet
My sister did this with my neice and it worked immediately.She offered the potty to her frequently and my neice just refused. So, she kept her in her little panties and when my neice peed in them my sister had her sit in them for a few minutes to feel and learn the difference between a pull up and panties. My neice did not like that wet, yucky feeling even for a few minutes. (With pull ups, she couldn't tell any difference when she peed. ) My sister explained it to her that she had to wear panties now and if she wanted her bottom to stay clean and dry, she had to start using the potty. It worked that same day, with a few accidents in between. This didn't work with my son but I am convinced it's because he is a boy and messy doesn't bother him. With him, I read a book that said to plan an entire weekend to just focus on potty training. I had to take him like every 15 minutes, then every 30, every hour for a while. It was a pain in the butt, but it did work. Every kid is different, but I am a firm believer that pull ups are worthless for potty training. Your child cannot tell a huge difference between it and a diaper when they go potty in their pants.





Like Miami Lily, I used a potty chart with stickers that my son put on each time he used the potty. It really worked and I actually still have it !
Your way of potty training your daughter is the problem. When she is ready, she'll train. If she isn't around other kids, it might be a good idea to get her around kids who are about her age, or more preferably, 4 years old. She'll get the idea.





Most kids these days are training later (according to my daughter's doctor). Your daughter is likely rebelling against potty training the only way she knows how. When she finally shows interest in using the potty, reward her. But, if she isn't ready to train, she's going to keep rebelling.





Give up for now. She was too young at two, so you've basically made your daughter hate the potty. I'm thinking she didn't show interest at 2. The best way to potty train your child is to follow her lead. Otherwise, she's going to keep rebelling.





There are no kids in 5K who wear diapers. Relax about this issue. It will happen when your daughter is ready and not a moment sooner.





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Signs of readiness:


Able to stay dry for an hour or two.


Awareness of bodily functions - the look, grunt, comment when they go.


Interest in being clean and dry.


Able to understand and follow simple instructions.


Interest in wearing training pants instead of diapers.


Simple self dressing.


Interest or curiosity about bathroom habits.





The time it takes to potty train your toddler may vary. Toddlers will train at their own pace. Each one is different. Potty training is a complex skill which requires awareness, concentration, coordination, muscle control, and split-second timing. In the early stages of potty training toddlers will rely on mom and dad to remind them to use the potty. It is very common for children to wet their bed at night even when they are 8 years old. (You should consult with your health care provider to rule out any physical problems.) The best thing to do is not to set a time limit on potty training. Be very patient and rest assured that your toddler will potty train.





Most toddlers train in this order:


Nighttime bowel control.


Daytime bowel control.


Daytime bladder control.


Nighttime bladder control.





';It worked for us!'; Potty training tips from experienced moms.





Be consistent. Once your toddler and you are ready for potty training go out of diapers completely. Doing away with diapers will reinforce potty training. Use underwear or potty training pants. Let your toddler pick out their own big boy or girl paints. Using specially design potty training pants will help with the headache during those times your toddler has accidents.


Use a child size potty seat in the main living area of the home at first, then move it to the bathroom. This way the potty seat is very convenient to where the toddler is most likely to be playing and spending time with the rest on the family. Most toddlers do not like to stop playing to take a long walk to the bathroom. When your toddler is a little more comfortable with the idea of using the potty, then move it to the bathroom.


Allow your toddler to train at his or her own pace. Don't say ';I am potty training this week.'; It will always take a longer time to potty train than you expect. Putting a time expectation on potty training will only be disappointing if it takes longer than you planned. If you rush your toddler to train, he or she may very well resist you and the whole idea completely. Patience is the key to parenting a toddler.


Give your toddler lots of praise for their efforts in using the potty. Even if nothing happens, the attempt deserves a praise. You will find that praise and lots of it will make potty training enjoyable.


Don't shame or punish when your toddler has an accident. Accidents play a big role in potty training. The accident teaches the toddler wet association. Overlook accidents and see them as a plus in potty training.


Invite them in when you use the bathroom.


Dress them in clothes they can get out of quickly.


Teach them to wipe, pull up their pants, and wash their hands.


Appreciate when your toddler reports an ';after the fact'; in their diaper or training pants. This recognition of body signals is a step in the right direction.


Don't flush in the presence of your toddler if they have a fear or are upset by flushing the toilet.
I'd get rid of the pull ups (except nap and bedtime) and just take her to the bathroom every hour and have her sit and try. Just stick with the regular toilet (unless she's so small she'll fall in) and get rid of the extra stuff. That can make it too daunting for the little ones (just stuff for parents to spend money on and not necessary). Once she stars staying dry between each trip to the potty, stretch it out to an hour and a half. Once she does that and stays dry in between, 2 hours, etc.





The biggest reward she can get is you being happy she went on the potty! Jump up and down, spin around, clap your hands, be happy she did it. Ignore the accidents and just be happy and make a big deal when it goes well. She'll be so anxious to get your happy reaction, she'll be heading to the potty by herself before the next hour comes before you know it.
Been there done that... Took my daughter a whole year to be potty training..Finally knock on wood she has it down packed. She just turned 4 yesterday. She is also in daycare then they help alot.


However, You need to take her out of the pull-ups. They are fine for night time but during the day No more. Just have to keep at her.. every hour etc.. Keep her in the big girls undies. I know it will be messy. But that might do the trick. Good luck!





As my mom says ';Nobody goes to Kindergarten in Diapers!';
I started really buckling down with my son yesterday and in ONE day, got a lot accomplished. I just put him in underwear and prepared myself to clean up the mess. He HATED the feeling of pee running down his legs. Also, I let him pee in the shower to learn that he has control over the stream of urine. He thought it was fun. He FINALLY realized he could stand at the potty and pee into it. That's what worked for us. Today is day 2 and going just about as well. No accidents YET. Nothing will work until they're ready though. That's the sucky thing about potty-training. Potty training for a year seems awfully rough though. I hope something changes soon. BEST OF LUCK.





*I know boys are different than girls, but hopefully some of that can be translated over for a girl.
Take the pull-ups off to start -- those are just stretchy diapers.


She's three - and unless she has a problem she should be able to control her bladder.





I agree with the posters who say - put her in undies and buy a bottle of carpet cleaner....it's time for potty training boot camp. I used this technique with all 4 of my children. We talked about it, we got ready for it, and I allotted a three full days of no activities to interrupt me, and away we went. I had to sop up a couple of puddles but other than that no big deal.





Get you and her some books for the bathroom - lol you'll need to be in there for awhile.
what i did with my Godson is i spoke to him clearly face to face ';when you need to go to the bathroom go to the toilet and call me when you done'; i pointed to the toilet and said yes and then the pull up and said no...i made sure he understood..although i said this...if you do it in your pants you get a powpow..meaning he would get a tap on his hand..i said but would never actually full through with it..but it scared him enough not to go on himself...and ALOT of praise kisses and lollipop when he went to the toilet or whatever is her fav thing..also a step ladder may work