Any advice on how to get over feelings of insecurity?

For a little over a year and half I have been with a great guy. I truly love him. I know he truly loves me. But I can't help but get these stabs of insecurity. I know when we first started dating he still flirted with female friends via chat, or had what I thought, was inappropriate joking around with them. Both he and his best friend have confirmed that to him I am the love of his life. But about a year ago, after we moved in together, I just started to worry. I love him. I don't want to loose him. Things seem to be getting better, I have been fighting with myself to fight my insecurities, but every once in a while I get a stab and it just makes me nauseaous. I am going to visit my brother for a week, and I need some more tips on what to do. I am also seeking help from a Therapist, and I am going to ask him to go on occasion too. Because he has trouble opening up and showing his emotions to me. Which just makes me that much more insecure. Anyway ladies (or guys), any tips?Any advice on how to get over feelings of insecurity?
Men who have excessive female friends crave validation. Ego stroking. It's a high-maintenance pain in the a**! Most men have one or maybe two female friends who they send Christmas cards to or chat with occasionally, etc., but that's it. It's as simple as that. Watch what he DOES, not what he says. If he's coming home to you and seemingly is in love with you, stop over thinking things because you will drive the both of you insane. Insecurities are very normal. It's not showing him your little voodoo dolls with his ex girlfriends' names written on them that's the key! (Joke...) You're obviously worried that some relationship altering event will occur while you're visiting your brother. It won't. As a matter of fact, he will probably appreciate the break. He'll be able to leave the seat up and hang around the house in his Bermuda shorts while eating everything in your refrigerator...which will be confirmed by the state that your apartment will be in, upon your return. If he's going to cheat, he's certainly not going to offer this information to you and your visiting your brother isn't going to make a bit of difference. Just relax. He will appreciate your confidence and it will make you feel so much better to know he's appreciating you while you're away. My father traveled 70% of the time and always remained faithful to my mother. Give your guy the benifit of the doubt and RELAX! Have fun on your trip. Oh yeah--men are just wired differently than women. They rarely open up in the first place. They're conditioned to be strong, tough, to save the world. Conversing about his deepest emotions with the woman he's supposed to protect isn't exactly Jedi behavior. Granted, some guys open up more than others but there's nothing out of the norm with your fellow.Any advice on how to get over feelings of insecurity?
girl stress like that can make u sick. breathe. maybe he does like female friends and converse with them but love you. i like to have male friends better but my husband is so jealous and insecure that i don't make no guys friens or chat but that's my choice. let me tell u the more u'll fight with him the least open he'll be with u. it okay too wonder, so much cheaters and liars out there but give yourself a rest also. both of you need to see the therapist he doesn't seem to care about why u might fell that way. when u love each other sacrifices should be from both of you. he also need to understand and help u cope with your feelings u guys have a conversation problem. there is possibility that he could be playin u keep your eyes open but do not drive him crazy about that and he needs to be considerate and what and how he doin things and how it might affect u and u need to give yourself a break take it easy. u both need help


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