Basically I'm afraid that I will lose my job because for the past several months I've pretty much showed up and browsed the web all day. I dread the end of the week when I have to put in my time and explain what I did... The guilt is tremendous.
I'm a ';Developer';, as in application/database developer, and I can do pretty good at writing applications, but lately I've gotten a few tasks to create some reports and I just simply don't know how to do them. I don't understand the business side of it at all and I don't give a crap about that stuff anymore.
Adding to my depression is the fact that I've lost most of my hearing due to meniere's disease in the last 10 years ( and I've been a musician for about 30 yrs). Also my memory and concentration seem affected (not a good thing in programming). I feel totally stuck. I live on an island, so there's not much work and the pay is just barely enough to stay afloat. I have a family to support so there's no way I can quit.Any advice on how to beat my lack of motivation/procrastination/sla鈥?problem?
I know how you feel. I work in an office too and you are right sometimes it is not very interesting or motivating.
You say you are depressed and you do sound like you are. There is help for that. If you see a doctor about your depression , hearing loss and try to find some way in your life to have fun again things will get better.Any advice on how to beat my lack of motivation/procrastination/sla鈥?problem?
I've lost much of my hearing in my left ear, so I understand that. You could always reach out to others via the web. Start your own website. That's what I did. You'll gain more motivation once you start doing something.
Look at my site. If you want to do something like that yourself, just read the ';My Passion'; page.
Chances are, your boss has similar worries.
thats really sad. depending on where you live...you should try finding another job while keeping the same one you have now. you can try to stick to two jobs at once. or maybe become famous with writing music since you're a musician.
It sounds like you may have depression. Get it checked out by your doctor. Maybe change your job?
I sympathize with you and I'm sure a lot of other people do too. I suggest meditation. 20 min/day, every day, find a quiet place, relax, breathe deeply, and keep your mind clear. When thoughts push in, push them back out. It's difficult at first but you will get better at it. It will help with your guilt, concentration, memory, low mood, and procrastination, and probably fix other aspects of your life.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Not able to forget girl even after 10 years.Please advice,how to divert myself?
I am not able to forget a girl even after 10 years when i was in High school.
Right now i am working and married.
It happenned recently when i recently found her and exchanged some E-mails.And now it has become tough to work,pass time alone.Whatever i do i see her face around.
Does anybody has any advice for controling such emotions?
She has become a good friend and there are no wrong intentions too but somehow i want her to be near me.Please help.Not able to forget girl even after 10 years.Please advice,how to divert myself?
Ok, if it has become hard for you to work, to pass time alone, and you want her to be near you, then what holds you from getting a divorce and marrying her??? What is that exactly that holds you from doing that??? Are you afraid to hurt your wife and your children? By getting the divorce you will be making a huge favor to them, because nothing is worse than being married to a man that cannot forget another woman. By divorcing your wife, you will be giving her an opportunity to meet another man who will love her, and only her, and therefore provide her with happiness that she deserves. Children will finally start live in the atmosfer free of deceit. You, will also be happy by finally reuniting with your highschool sweetheart. At first it will hurt, but everybody will be trully happy at last! Here you have a choice, if you can't live without your highschool love - get the divorce. Let your wife go and finally find her own happiness that she deserves. Or keep living in a world of deceit. Decide once and for all, and do what you have to do! What holds you from doing that?
Sounds scary, huh? Then get over that childish infatuation now. The candy in a glistenning wrapping is tempting, but it might be very well not what you expected to taste once you unwrap it. Be careful not to lose a real treasure for a shiny fib.Not able to forget girl even after 10 years.Please advice,how to divert myself?
talk to a GP u trust. its possible u might need anti-obsessional treatment. Best of luck!
There is nothing wrong with friends. Invite her to your house for dinner so she can meet your wife!
first of all tell this problem to u r wife she will really help u out and then u may consult a physiologist.
I think pretty soon you gone be in big trouble,are you willing to give on yr marriage if not you need to find other way to divert yourself
Uhh, That's like a dejavu of a problem I had.
Problem solved automatically when I changed the city because of job. Damn it felt bad at time. Still really good friends, I wish it could be more than just friends:( I really love her...in my own way...
Can't really give you any good advice because I don't know your situation, just don't let her go if you feel that way...
And don't start dating her or you ruin the whole thing... and you marriage on side.....
Emotions suck, don't know any cure for them. Maybe booze and weed, but nothing else;)
Let your wife know about this... she will give you the best advice.
be with her more and more in presence of your wife, and i recommend to become all of you friends. You, she and your wife.
do u want her more than just a good friend? do u secretly wish u married her instead. are u currently sexually attracted to her? if the above is yes for u, u are on dangerous ground coz you are currently married. u may not want to hear this, but if the above is true u got to break the freindship (honestly tell her) if u want to preserve your marriage %26amp; father to your kids if u have any. u can't have 2 legs in 2 boats, can't go far. worst of all, there maybe a waterfall around the corner u can't get away from coz u paddling 2 boats instead of 1. please have good think about things.
most of all, i wish u peace, man
Then you're asking a wrong a question. ask if you really love your wife.skin
Right now i am working and married.
It happenned recently when i recently found her and exchanged some E-mails.And now it has become tough to work,pass time alone.Whatever i do i see her face around.
Does anybody has any advice for controling such emotions?
She has become a good friend and there are no wrong intentions too but somehow i want her to be near me.Please help.Not able to forget girl even after 10 years.Please advice,how to divert myself?
Ok, if it has become hard for you to work, to pass time alone, and you want her to be near you, then what holds you from getting a divorce and marrying her??? What is that exactly that holds you from doing that??? Are you afraid to hurt your wife and your children? By getting the divorce you will be making a huge favor to them, because nothing is worse than being married to a man that cannot forget another woman. By divorcing your wife, you will be giving her an opportunity to meet another man who will love her, and only her, and therefore provide her with happiness that she deserves. Children will finally start live in the atmosfer free of deceit. You, will also be happy by finally reuniting with your highschool sweetheart. At first it will hurt, but everybody will be trully happy at last! Here you have a choice, if you can't live without your highschool love - get the divorce. Let your wife go and finally find her own happiness that she deserves. Or keep living in a world of deceit. Decide once and for all, and do what you have to do! What holds you from doing that?
Sounds scary, huh? Then get over that childish infatuation now. The candy in a glistenning wrapping is tempting, but it might be very well not what you expected to taste once you unwrap it. Be careful not to lose a real treasure for a shiny fib.Not able to forget girl even after 10 years.Please advice,how to divert myself?
talk to a GP u trust. its possible u might need anti-obsessional treatment. Best of luck!
There is nothing wrong with friends. Invite her to your house for dinner so she can meet your wife!
first of all tell this problem to u r wife she will really help u out and then u may consult a physiologist.
I think pretty soon you gone be in big trouble,are you willing to give on yr marriage if not you need to find other way to divert yourself
Uhh, That's like a dejavu of a problem I had.
Problem solved automatically when I changed the city because of job. Damn it felt bad at time. Still really good friends, I wish it could be more than just friends:( I really love her...in my own way...
Can't really give you any good advice because I don't know your situation, just don't let her go if you feel that way...
And don't start dating her or you ruin the whole thing... and you marriage on side.....
Emotions suck, don't know any cure for them. Maybe booze and weed, but nothing else;)
Let your wife know about this... she will give you the best advice.
be with her more and more in presence of your wife, and i recommend to become all of you friends. You, she and your wife.
do u want her more than just a good friend? do u secretly wish u married her instead. are u currently sexually attracted to her? if the above is yes for u, u are on dangerous ground coz you are currently married. u may not want to hear this, but if the above is true u got to break the freindship (honestly tell her) if u want to preserve your marriage %26amp; father to your kids if u have any. u can't have 2 legs in 2 boats, can't go far. worst of all, there maybe a waterfall around the corner u can't get away from coz u paddling 2 boats instead of 1. please have good think about things.
most of all, i wish u peace, man
Then you're asking a wrong a question. ask if you really love your wife.
Any advice on how to get stars?
The last 6 or so questions I asked I have received no stars =(. Can anyone help me coax some out of those who view my questions?Any advice on how to get stars?
sure if you ahve an interesting question people will give you a start b/c they like it. i'll give one i hoe i get best answer =]
sure if you ahve an interesting question people will give you a start b/c they like it. i'll give one i hoe i get best answer =]
Zit!!! Advice on how to get rid of it before it emerges?
I have this zit.it hasn't really came threw my skin yet and you cant see it but you can feel it.
Its sore when i touch it..talk or smile.
School starts tuesday.
any advice?Zit!!! Advice on how to get rid of it before it emerges?
ok....u need to boil water and totally put ur face in the steam like a bunch of times so that it can come out....do not touch it right now but if u keep on putting steam on it the white head will pop out and then u can pop it but use q tips to do that...and then wash ur face gently, after that u can put an on the spot treatmen like neautrogena on the spot it works great, it should be flattened out by then so u can cover up any redness with makeup!!!Zit!!! Advice on how to get rid of it before it emerges?
Try things such as tea tree oil, witch hazel, anything antibacterial.
Also, ice or cucumber could help calm it down.
Try not to touch it either, but if it does come to a head, just get rid of the puss, and do not squeeze any more out, or it will either scar or take even longer to go.
Lemon juice also dries them up, but dont use this too much as it could irritate the skin.
Make sure you are washing your face twice a day and moisturizing. DO NOT PICK AT THE ZIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?that is the worst thing you can do to it! If you want to cover it up make sure you only use mineral makeup so you don't make the zit worse or bother the rest of your face. . . . . . be careful with what you put on your face. . . .you might also want to try a face mask that you can purchase at any beauty store. Hop this helps!!!
WASH YOUR FACE!!!!!!!! it is sooooo important that you wash your face when you wake up (it gives you a jolt and makes me feel refreshed!) and before you go to bed. plus STAY AWAY from really greasy or salty foods for a little while. also DRINK WATER. it really works towards a healthier complexion :)
now if you're willing to spend like $15 buy a product called AcneFree. its like proactive where it has three steps but it actually works and is waaaaaay less expensive and it actually works and its cheaper and did i mention it actually works?? :) you won't be disappointed!
good luck to you chica :]
Ok, whatever you do don't touch it. You can either:
Put some toothpaste (yes, toothpaste) on it to majorly dry it out; or
leave it then pop the sucker out!
either way use cover-up but put some zit cream on it before you do.
uh oh!!!! don't pop it until it comes thrugh the skin more. then squeeze the life out of it lol. until then... use lots and lots of coverup!
Its sore when i touch it..talk or smile.
School starts tuesday.
any advice?Zit!!! Advice on how to get rid of it before it emerges?
ok....u need to boil water and totally put ur face in the steam like a bunch of times so that it can come out....do not touch it right now but if u keep on putting steam on it the white head will pop out and then u can pop it but use q tips to do that...and then wash ur face gently, after that u can put an on the spot treatmen like neautrogena on the spot it works great, it should be flattened out by then so u can cover up any redness with makeup!!!Zit!!! Advice on how to get rid of it before it emerges?
Try things such as tea tree oil, witch hazel, anything antibacterial.
Also, ice or cucumber could help calm it down.
Try not to touch it either, but if it does come to a head, just get rid of the puss, and do not squeeze any more out, or it will either scar or take even longer to go.
Lemon juice also dries them up, but dont use this too much as it could irritate the skin.
Make sure you are washing your face twice a day and moisturizing. DO NOT PICK AT THE ZIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?that is the worst thing you can do to it! If you want to cover it up make sure you only use mineral makeup so you don't make the zit worse or bother the rest of your face. . . . . . be careful with what you put on your face. . . .you might also want to try a face mask that you can purchase at any beauty store. Hop this helps!!!
WASH YOUR FACE!!!!!!!! it is sooooo important that you wash your face when you wake up (it gives you a jolt and makes me feel refreshed!) and before you go to bed. plus STAY AWAY from really greasy or salty foods for a little while. also DRINK WATER. it really works towards a healthier complexion :)
now if you're willing to spend like $15 buy a product called AcneFree. its like proactive where it has three steps but it actually works and is waaaaaay less expensive and it actually works and its cheaper and did i mention it actually works?? :) you won't be disappointed!
good luck to you chica :]
Ok, whatever you do don't touch it. You can either:
Put some toothpaste (yes, toothpaste) on it to majorly dry it out; or
leave it then pop the sucker out!
either way use cover-up but put some zit cream on it before you do.
uh oh!!!! don't pop it until it comes thrugh the skin more. then squeeze the life out of it lol. until then... use lots and lots of coverup!
Any advice on how to conceive?
Any advice to help me conceive?
Irregular cycles 34- 58days
TTC for 18months!
Any suggestions?
I have even tried clomid
I have a doctors appointment with a specialist in 45days.
* just looking for advice on anything else that could help!Any advice on how to conceive?
idkAny advice on how to conceive?
Best way to get prego is to trak your cycle and know your body. You want to try to have sex at least 4 or so days prior to ovulation, the day of ovulation, and a day or two after ovulation to increase sperm availability when the egg is dropped. Track your Basal Body Temp (BBT) on a chart. A basal thermometer is more detailed than a regular thermometer. For instance, a normal thermometer will track your temp at 98.6 while a BBT will track it at 98.64. What you're looking for is a shift in temp by at least .40 degrees. When you see that shift, you've already ovulated and conception has passed for this month.
You also want to track your cervical mucus (CM). You are usually dry right after your period with no CM. It starts to become creamy and thicker a few days prior to ovulation, and during ovulation, it increases in volume and becomes clear and sticky, much like egg whites. That's your optimal time to have sex.
Position is missionary. Woman on top lets sperm leak out easier, and is not the most productive way. Also, lay there for at least 15-20 min after intercourse to allow sperm to move up to the egg.
YOu may also want to use an ovulation predictor kit (OPK). I think that this would be the best thing for you since your periods are irregular. It tells you that you are about to ovulate with in 12-36 hours.
HOpe this helps!
There is a system that you may be interested in. It is frustrating when things don't work when you are trying to conceive but there is also a solution out there that may help in your situation. Anyway the system helps women get pregnant naturally and most of the time they get pregnant within 2 months using the system. It's not some ordinary get pregnant tips thing, its the real deal and explains what you need to do to get pregnant and how to reverse infertility or what problems you are having getting pregnant.
You should ask to be put on birth control so you could work on regulating your period, because its hard to conceive with irregular periods. In order to conceive you have to have sex during the time you ovulate...ovulation is hard to detect, but if you record your Cervical Mucus it can help. You're most fertile when you have a creamy egg white like discharge.
Good Luck!!!
Lots of Baby Dust to Both you and all of us TTC!!!
we also tried for a baby for about 1 year ..and no luck so wat we did was that on my doctor's appt , the doc told me to take birth control pills for 3 months and then stop them and then try again for concieving.. and we did exactly wat the the doc told us and it worked.. the first month that i didn't take the birth control pills, i was preg that month..
now i m a mom to the cutest 16 month old boy in the world..THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS GIFT
I heard that drinking 1 or more cups of green tea a day can double your chances of conception. Also, I heard good things about false unicorn root. There are several things that you could do, you just have to look for them.
Hope this helps
Lots of baby dust ****************
doctor advice is the best , listen to no one as it can cause harm to yr health, unless it frm a trustworthy source.
think of Jesus...it worked for me!
Irregular cycles 34- 58days
TTC for 18months!
Any suggestions?
I have even tried clomid
I have a doctors appointment with a specialist in 45days.
* just looking for advice on anything else that could help!Any advice on how to conceive?
idkAny advice on how to conceive?
Best way to get prego is to trak your cycle and know your body. You want to try to have sex at least 4 or so days prior to ovulation, the day of ovulation, and a day or two after ovulation to increase sperm availability when the egg is dropped. Track your Basal Body Temp (BBT) on a chart. A basal thermometer is more detailed than a regular thermometer. For instance, a normal thermometer will track your temp at 98.6 while a BBT will track it at 98.64. What you're looking for is a shift in temp by at least .40 degrees. When you see that shift, you've already ovulated and conception has passed for this month.
You also want to track your cervical mucus (CM). You are usually dry right after your period with no CM. It starts to become creamy and thicker a few days prior to ovulation, and during ovulation, it increases in volume and becomes clear and sticky, much like egg whites. That's your optimal time to have sex.
Position is missionary. Woman on top lets sperm leak out easier, and is not the most productive way. Also, lay there for at least 15-20 min after intercourse to allow sperm to move up to the egg.
YOu may also want to use an ovulation predictor kit (OPK). I think that this would be the best thing for you since your periods are irregular. It tells you that you are about to ovulate with in 12-36 hours.
HOpe this helps!
There is a system that you may be interested in. It is frustrating when things don't work when you are trying to conceive but there is also a solution out there that may help in your situation. Anyway the system helps women get pregnant naturally and most of the time they get pregnant within 2 months using the system. It's not some ordinary get pregnant tips thing, its the real deal and explains what you need to do to get pregnant and how to reverse infertility or what problems you are having getting pregnant.
You should ask to be put on birth control so you could work on regulating your period, because its hard to conceive with irregular periods. In order to conceive you have to have sex during the time you ovulate...ovulation is hard to detect, but if you record your Cervical Mucus it can help. You're most fertile when you have a creamy egg white like discharge.
Good Luck!!!
Lots of Baby Dust to Both you and all of us TTC!!!
we also tried for a baby for about 1 year ..and no luck so wat we did was that on my doctor's appt , the doc told me to take birth control pills for 3 months and then stop them and then try again for concieving.. and we did exactly wat the the doc told us and it worked.. the first month that i didn't take the birth control pills, i was preg that month..
now i m a mom to the cutest 16 month old boy in the world..THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS GIFT
I heard that drinking 1 or more cups of green tea a day can double your chances of conception. Also, I heard good things about false unicorn root. There are several things that you could do, you just have to look for them.
Hope this helps
Lots of baby dust ****************
doctor advice is the best , listen to no one as it can cause harm to yr health, unless it frm a trustworthy source.
think of Jesus...it worked for me!
I am Bisexual and dont know how to find anyone Like myself to talk to. Any advice?
I a 13 and I need someone to talk to, to help me find out more about it. I prefer they are older and have gone through more and just really need help. Email me at deja_kirkland@yahoo.com t help me.I am Bisexual and dont know how to find anyone Like myself to talk to. Any advice?
I would love to chat. :)
I am 20 but, I might just do. :) haha
Email me;
sierralou123@yahoo.com
I would love to chat. :)
I am 20 but, I might just do. :) haha
Email me;
sierralou123@yahoo.com
I need advice how to date a celibate guy, when i love sex, and want to share myself with him?
Im 21 and im dating a guy (24) who is a virgin for personal religious beliefs. i absolutely adore the restraint, faith and commitment that it takes for him to stick with this. but i am not a virgin, and i love sex when its with someone who i adore and love.
has anyone ever been in this situation where you want to be intimate with your partner, but doing so would end their vows of celibacy? and how did you cope? What happened? i want to ';share myself'; with him, but hes not interested.
ive never been faced with such a situation, and i have no clue what it the best way to approach it. I love him, and i want to be with him.
help!!I need advice how to date a celibate guy, when i love sex, and want to share myself with him?
Dont force him to have sex!!! now adays its a great thing when someone keeps themselves especially a guy. He is doing the right thing to wait for the one he wants to marry. If u you really love him you will honor that and wait....
I am celibate so i know how it feels... if u do it with him and you guys end up not working out it will hurt him badly!
has anyone ever been in this situation where you want to be intimate with your partner, but doing so would end their vows of celibacy? and how did you cope? What happened? i want to ';share myself'; with him, but hes not interested.
ive never been faced with such a situation, and i have no clue what it the best way to approach it. I love him, and i want to be with him.
help!!I need advice how to date a celibate guy, when i love sex, and want to share myself with him?
Dont force him to have sex!!! now adays its a great thing when someone keeps themselves especially a guy. He is doing the right thing to wait for the one he wants to marry. If u you really love him you will honor that and wait....
I am celibate so i know how it feels... if u do it with him and you guys end up not working out it will hurt him badly!
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